Theodore makes the leap from “I can’t believe I’m having this conversation with my computer” to hurting Samantha’s feelings. Because Samantha has feelings.
Jonze lets us laugh at the idea of this in a lot of ways, because on first blush, it’s ridiculous. But as vulnerable Theodore botches a blind date (Olivia Wilde) simply because he’s too damaged to let good things happen, the sensitivity of “Her” steps forward.
The fashions are dress-down funky —Hush Puppies have won the shoe wars. But it’s no great leap to see legions of isolated commuters listening or chattering away, seemingly to themselves, ear-buds plugged in, human race tuned out. We’re living in that world now.
And as Theodore and then others around him (Amy Adams and the omnipresent Chris Pratt play friends) accept this “relationship,” you start to wonder just which tech companies are working on this final social frontier. Is there an OS that can be a balm to a lonely world?
And this being a romance, you imagine where it can go or how it might end, and Jonze brilliantly ponders the soon-to-be-ponderable:
Is it better to have loved and lost than never to have logged on at all?