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March 31, 2013

Your view: Letters to the editor

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---- — Gays should share in the promises of liberty

To the editor:

Front and center in our national dialogue is the issue as to whether gays should be allowed to marry, a complex and emotional topic with many aspects. The Supreme Court will have the final say; meanwhile, much should be noted about the daunted problem of being gay.

Formerly thought to be a choice, just as in the old days when teachers insisted that left-handed children learn to write with their right hand, it has become clear, as many gays are now “coming out of the closet”, that homosexuality is a circumstance of birth. The gay identity has no commonality as to family, class, or any social affiliation. Recently, twin boys at a very young age were observed for their tendencies. One tot loved and played with dolls and the other pursued traditional, boyish forms of play. It is not difficult to predict their outcomes in later life.

Regarding the recognition of gay marriages, the case seems clear in terms of equal rights for all, just as for persons of color or with disabilities. Religionists decry same sex marriage as immoral; yet, the Bible recommends that a slave be given Sunday off and we long ago rejected that institution. Gay marriage will have no effect on traditional marriage, which has its own problems with a 50-percent divorce rate. Rush Limbaugh is a strong voice for traditional marriage — as well he should be, having tried it four times.

Besides enjoying benefits accrued in conventional marriages, regarding taxes and entitlements, gay relationships have benefits to the public. Commitments reduce the spread of STDs, gay couples often adopt children with handicaps, and two loving parents can do a better job than a single mother struggling to raise children while working to provide for them.

Many young people unable to cope with their sexuality have committed suicide, been called ugly names, bullied by peers and rejected by family. Why would anyone want to choose that as a lifestyle? Sadly, there is no cure for homosexuality and it has existed since the earliest of times and is also common in most species of animals.

It is time for all Americans to accept people for who they are and let them share in the promise of the Preamble to the Declaration of Independence: the right to life, liberty and happiness.

Dante Ippolito


Bean bags and intellectual rigor don’t mix

To the editor:

I was horrified by the picture in a recent edition of The Eagle-Tribune of all those kids in their library bean bag chairs.

Is this how we educate the movers and shakers of tomorrow? I’ve seen more signs of life in a hospital recovery room.

About the only use for these chairs (besides sleeping) is the dreaded texting. Do you think the Widener Library at Harvard has bean bag chairs?

Susan Walsh

North Andover

Church must be open to discussion

To the editor:

I was uplifted by Father Tom Fitzpatrick’s recently published letter (March 28). He is one of my parish priests, and his thoughts and hopes parallel those of mine.

Indeed, if the advice of his letter is to be heeded, when difficult issues, like human sexuality, are openly treated within the Church, there will be much “heated debate, misunderstandings, and confusion”, as he has stated. My thoughts come from a painful year of grieving the loss of my wife of 44 years, which continues and will continue for the rest of my life. But, the pain is the price of moving forward with the struggle of being alive. Consequently, I accept the pain and struggle. At the time when I no longer accept them, I will die. Similarly, if the Church is to remain alive, it, too, must accept the pain and struggle of moving forward.

Fr. Tom wrote that “the way the church deals with these issues (i.e. abortion and homosexuality) may in some cases lead to hatred.” I have followed the topic of abortion within the Internet “Catholic” media, or what these media would like me to think is the “Catholic” media. I have been disturbed by some elements of hatred expressed. Francis has commented that he does not want the Church to become just another “compassionate NGO.” I agree, but the real danger is that the Church could be seen as just another hate group if it does not correct its current course.

I emphasize the importance of opening the Church to discussion of the sexuality issues. Much good would result.

Daniel Yetter